Relationships are constantly evolving. The more time you spend with someone, the closer you get to them. You’ll even start to notice their unusual habits or quirks, but you may also find more things that the two of you disagree on. In order for your relationship to withstand the test of time, it’s important to remember that changes happen, and it’s how you handle them that truly matter. Are the laws of love cruel?

Here are seven cruel laws of love you cannot avoid

1. Trust Is Fragile

Trust is the foundation to a healthy relationship. Once that trust is broken, it can be nearly impossible to find it again. In some cases, lost trust leads to the ultimate demise of the relationship. If you are willing to break your partner’s trust, know that it might mean the end of your commitment to each other. It takes time and effort to be that trustworthy person your partner can count on.

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2. You Won’t Always Be On The Same Side

When you’re in a relationship, you might hope that you and your other half are always able to act as a team. But every once in a while, you have to accept that this might not be the case. It is entirely possible to love someone but disagree with their point of view. The most important thing is to listen to one another and have a calm conversation explaining your point of view. Sometimes, you need to agree to disagree and leave it at that.

3. The Attraction Might Fade

All too often, couples lose their attraction toward one another. Time and stress take their toll, age and weight creep in. Many couples have to actively work at keeping the spark alive, and that’s OK. Plan surprises, date nights and trips together whenever you can. Do something romantic together at least once a week, leave love notes around the house – do your part to keep the romance going.

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4. You Will Feel Lonely Sometimes

Every once in a while, things might hit a low point where you feel like you’re all alone in the relationship. You might feel like your partner is never around, they aren’t truly listening to you, or they don’t “see” you when you’re right in front of them. Just remember that many people care about you, and this feeling isn’t unusual. Talk to your partner about how you’re feeling instead of bottling it up.

5. You Will Hurt Each Other

It’s true what they say, that no one can hurt you more than the people you love. In the heat of the moment, you might say something you can’t take back, or visa versa. Take some time to cool off when you need it, but be ready to deal with problems when they arise. Work through them together to compromise and find a solution, and try your hardest not to hit your partner where it hurts, just because you’re upset.

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6. You Will Lose Your Connection From Time To Time

When things get hectic and life gets in the way, you might feel like you have lost touch with your partner. The best remedy to rekindle your connection and your love for one another is to spend time together. Clear your schedules and do something you both enjoy. Turn your cell phones off and spend the day together, talking and reconnecting.

7. You Need To Foster Your Relationship

Love isn’t always enough on its own. It can’t just be a feeling for your relationship to withstand the test of time. It has to be an action as well. You need to work at it together. Spend time together, go on adventures, talk to each other and really listen to one another. Laugh together, be romantic and enjoy your time together, no matter what it is you’re doing.

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