In the age of social media, our lives are becoming more and more public. We post about where we work, what kind of car we drive, where we’re out to eat and who we’re dating. While it’s fun to post pictures and statuses, Facebook, Instagram and other social media sites are often responsible for ending relationships. In order to keep your relationship healthy and intimate, there are some things you just shouldn’t be sharing with the world.
Here are six things to always keep secret about your relationship:
1. Your Partner’s Flaws
When you share your partner’s annoying habits or flaws with others, all you’re doing is degrading them. You’re going behind their back and talking about all of the parts of them you don’t particularly like. It might seem harmless to share their odd morning routine with a friend, but think about what would happen if they found out. They would feel hurt, betrayed and unwanted.
This may be one of the most shared details about relationships today on social media. When one partner is mad at the other, they take out their frustration and anger by positing about it online in hopes of getting friends to agree with their side of things. In order to protect your relationship, never post about fights or heated arguments on social media. Your arguments should be between the two of you to work out and solve. Getting other people involved will only make things worse.
3. Anything Related To Sex
Sharing details about your sex life is one of the biggest ways you can invade your partner’s privacy. Telling someone else about your sexual experiences completely robs your relationship of its intimacy. Even if you think you’re sharing minor details with a small group of friends, any kind of talk about your sex life is a betrayal against your partner.
4. Money Troubles
Many couples experience money troubles at some point in their relationship. This is an issue that should be discussed and worked out between the two of you. Talking to friends or family members about your partner’s spending habits or your money issues will only make things worse. If you need help, seek help in a financial adviser instead.
5. Every Little Detail
Part of what makes your relationship special is that it’s just the two of you. The two of you share movie nights, date nights, last-minute adventures, unexpected gifts, silly moments and inside jokes. As tempting as it might be to share every little detail of your relationship with your friends or family members – whether things are going good or bad – letting someone else in completely takes away something special that the two of you share – intimacy, privacy and trust.
6. Anything Said In Confidence
Open communication is a part of any healthy relationship. If your partner is having a bad day because of a fight with a family member, they feel comfortable talking to you about it. If something big is happening at work but it’s a little hush-hush, you are there to confide in. Sharing your partner’s problems, feelings or even their achievements without their permission can betray their trust – something that is often very difficult to get back.