Lasting relationships are built on mutual trust, love, and respect. It’s a constant give-and-take. When one person is always the one having to compromise or sacrifice, it can lead to resentment. If your partner constantly puts himself before you, is self-centered, or isn’t concerned with how you feel, they probably don’t deserve you. It’s often too true that we don’t know what we have until it’s gone. No matter how hard you try, you can’t change someone. If they can’t appreciate you for who you are, they don’t deserve your love.
Here are four signs you love someone who doesn’t deserve you:
1. They Belittle You
If your partner constantly criticizes you or belittles you, not only do they not care about your feelings, they actually enjoy hurting you. Someone who makes fun of your appearance, your weight, your job, your dreams, or your beliefs isn’t worth your time. Their mean-spirited comments are truly intended to hurt you. A person who loves you would never want to tear you down. They would strive to motivate you and support you in order to make you happy. The last thing they would want to do is criticize you, make you self-conscious, or make you feel like you don’t deserve to be happy.
2. They Lie To You
Without trust, a relationship cannot last. A person who deserves your love will understand how important it is to establish a trustworthy relationship. If you’ve caught your partner in a lie repeatedly, they don’t value trust. Lying is also a form of disrespect. A partner who deserves you will always be honest with you. They won’t have anything to hide from you, so they’ll have no reason to lie to you.
3. They Cheat On You
A partner who cheats on you does not deserve your love. Cheating is a sign of true selfishness. Not only does it destroy your trust, it also destroys your communication, your intimacy, and just about every aspect of your relationship. A serial cheater will most likely never change. Walking away can be difficult, but it’s important to have enough respect for yourself to know that it’s time to move on.
4. They Aren’t Dependable
In a time of need, you would hope that the person you love the most would be there for you. Whether your car broke down on the highway, or you had a bad day and simply need a shoulder to cry on, your partner is often the first person you want to lean on. If your partner doesn’t show up when you need them the most, it’s because they simply don’t care enough to be there. They are too focused on themselves to worry about your happiness. They might forget important dates, cancel on you at the last minute, or miss special activities. All because they are too wrapped up in their own world to care. If your partner isn’t dependable, they don’t deserve you.