Have you ever been dumped? I have – more than once. Invariably, it’s not fun. But you know what? You come to respect people who have the guts to just tell you it’s over.
Spend enough time in the dating world and you’ll come across several men and women who would lead you on with false hope for all of eternity if you let them.
The solution? Don’t let them.
Have a look at the following 8 signs of waning romantic interest. Take these as signs it’s time to hit the road and find someone who’s at least mature enough to be honest about their feelings.
#1 – They’re Always Too Busy For You
People make time for things that matter to them. Seriously, I know people with full-time jobs who manage to cram entire TV seasons into one week. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is constantly too busy to spend time communicating or even just being with you, face it – you’re not that high on their priority list.
#2 – They Stop Making Plans
A committed lover who’s interested in their relationship makes plans. Plans don’t have to involve child names or retirement arrangements but there should be some attempt at moving things forward. Even if it’s a weekend getaway together or an evening at a nice restaurant – if there’s love, there will be plans.
#3 – They Begin To Act Indifferent
“Oh, you found that really outrageous item on our credit card statement and now you’re upset? No big deal.”
Erk. Big deal.
As psychologist John M. Grohol puts it, indifference is one of the biggest signals of a relationship’s death. Couples who love each other argue and they argue often. If you’re the only person in your relationship who cares enough to call out nonsense, you may want to put that skill to use and ask your partner what’s going on.
#4 – They Stop Trying To Impress You
This isn’t to say partners should be spending every waking minute trying to impress each other. I mean, couples grow comfortable with each other and stop being so uptight.
But if your partner shows up to 5 dates in a row wearing the same shirt that gets progressively smellier, it’s a sign they’ve stopped caring about what you think. Why would they stop caring? Probably because they’re not interested.
#5 – They Don’t Support You Anymore
When you come home to silence – not even a single ‘how was your day?’ – you know things have gone downhill. This is especially true if your partner seems to be more concerned with how their favorite celebrity’s day has been than yours – you being the person they supposedly, y’know, love.
#6 – They Lose Interest In Intimacy
Be careful with this one. A number of things can cause it – including various medications, illnesses and psychological problems.
That said, if your partner is seemingly healthy but just completely lacking in any desire for intimacy whatsoever… sorry, mate.
#7 – They Cheat
Unfortunately, this is where point #6 often leads. If your uninterested partner has a healthy sex drive, they will probably not be able to resist the endless temptation that seems to parade itself in front of ‘taken’ men and women.
They may not even cheat physically; it may be all emotional. But the meaning is the same:
They’re not interested in what they get from you, so they’re looking elsewhere.
#8 – Everything Becomes About Them
It’s like your needs don’t even exist. Life’s all about where they want to go, who they want to hang out with and what they want to do. People with that mentality are often the type who thought they wanted a relationship but really just wanted the ‘status’ it brings; they have no interest in actually caring for another person.
#9 – They Blame You For Everything
When someone’s really interested in their relationship, they have no problem taking responsibility – even if it’s just a little bit for a situation that wasn’t totally their fault. When someone’s really not interested, they’ll cast blame on their partner – even when it’s completely unfair. It’s often their way of making themselves feel less guilty for having lost interest.
#10 – They Distance Themselves From Your World
That band you really love? They’re not so into them anymore. The places you frequent? Suddenly, they’re ‘boring.’ When this happens, it’s a sign your partner has not only lost interest – they’re also trying to put some distance between themselves and things that remind them of you.