If you know people who are narcissists, you know how difficult it is to deal with them on a daily basis. Sure, at times, they can appear charming. But at other times, they are selfish, cocky, and just plain rude. Fortunately, there are several “comebacks” you can add to your verbal tool belt. If you feel like you’re being manipulated by a narcissist, stand up for yourself by using a few simple phrases to catch them off guard.

Here are seven comebacks that put narcissists in their place:

1. “No”

You should never be afraid to say no. If someone is treating you poorly, if you feel uncomfortable or whatever the circumstance may be, say no when you need to. You are in charge of your own life and your own happiness. Don’t let anyone – including a narcissist – take that away from you.

2. “I’ll Believe It When I See It”

Narcissists have a habit of making promises they can’t keep. Try not to get your hopes up when dealing with a narcissist. If something sounds too good to be true, it probably is. This phrase will undoubtedly throw them off their game.

3. “The World Does Not Revolve Around You”

Whether or not this phrase actually makes a difference to a narcissist, it’s something they often need to hear. Narcissists believe that their wants and needs are more important than anyone else’s. If you’re having a hard time dealing with a narcissist, let them know that your beliefs and opinions matter, too.

4. “Slow Down”

Narcissists are professional manipulators. They make decisions based on how a situation will benefit them. For example, if a friend makes a decision for you, rushing you into action, just say, “Slow down!” And if someone pushes you in a direction you aren’t comfortable with, you can stop them in their tracks by telling them to slow down.

5. “I Am Assertive And Strong-willed”

One way a narcissist manipulates others is by telling them that they’re being overly emotional. Don’t let anyone else tell you that your feelings don’t matter. If a narcissist is telling you that you’re overreacting or being too emotional, respond by telling them that you are not overly emotional, you are assertive and strong-willed.

6. “I Refuse To Be Afraid”

Another manipulation tactic that narcissists use is fear. They might threaten you or abuse you and cut you down until you feel like you are helpless. Don’t let a narcissist cripple you with fear. Let them know that you are not afraid.

7. “Don’t Change The Subject”

Narcissists are pro’s at turning things around to make them look like they’re your fault. They will twist your words and try to manipulate you into thinking they didn’t do anything wrong. Don’t let them stray from the topic at hand or make you feel guilty in any way by manipulating the conversation.

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