While we often have no problem seeing flaws in others, we find it hard to admit our own weaknesses. We make excuses for our behavior and spend the majority of our lives waiting for something good to happen or waiting for our lives to begin. The truth is, nothing great is going to happen unless you work for it. No one is coming to save you. You are in charge of your own happiness.
If you’re waiting around for your life to begin, you might benefit from understanding these six harsh truths:
1. It’s Impossible To Make Everyone Happy
If you followed the advice or instructions of every single person in your life, you’d have no control over your happiness. You would either go crazy or end up feeling lifeless. The truth is, you can’t please everyone. There will always be someone who disagrees or disapproves. You have to accept that making your own decisions might leave you open to criticism, but it’s the only way to take charge of your life and your happiness. Do what you feel is right. Do what makes you happy.
2. The World Owes You Nothing
Regardless of your age, race, religious beliefs, appearance or social status, it’s important to understand that the world owes you nothing. You aren’t entitled to anything more than your neighbor is. If you want something, you need to work for it. If you spend your life whining and feeling sorry for yourself because things aren’t handed to you, you’ll never be successful.
3. No One Is Too Busy To Respond To You
People will make time for who they want to make time for. If your friend hasn’t responded after multiple texts or calls, it’s because they have deliberately chosen not to respond to you. If a potential employer hasn’t reached out, it’s not because they are too busy to get in touch with you. When you stop making excuses for people who treat you badly, you can build stronger relationships with the people who actually care about you.
4. Actions Speak Louder Than Words
You might have good thoughts and good intentions, but they don’t really matter unless your actions back them up. The truth is, your actions define you, not your thoughts or your intentions. You can sit around all day and think of ways to make the world better, but until you start doing something, you aren’t actually making a difference.
5. Nobody Is Coming To Save You
Don’t waste your time sitting around and waiting for someone to come save you. No one is magically going to appear and make your life better or suddenly make you happy. Your problems can’t be solved with a magic wand. You need to take control of your own happiness. If you’re unhappy with your current situation, the only way it’s going to change is if you decide to change it.
6. You’ll Miss 100% Of The Shots You Don’t Take
Taking a risk or starting something new can be scary. But if you don’t try, you’ll never succeed. You can spend your life making excuses. Telling others that you don’t have enough time, money or energy to accomplish your goals. Or, you can take a leap of faith and go after what you want. There is no reward without a little risk.