From the outside looking in, it’s often much easier to recognize a toxic relationship. Your family and friends may notice the pain your partner is causing you long before you begin to see what’s truly happening. Toxic people have a way of bringing you down, making you feel guilty, and isolating you through manipulation. When you finally begin to realize that your relationship is toxic, making the decision to leave can be extremely difficult. These five things can help make your decision easier when it comes to leaving a toxic relationship.
1. They Aren’t Going To Change
If your partner is toxic to your life, that fact will probably never change. Even if they’re a pro at saying ‘sorry’ or telling you they’ll do better, you can’t make someone change until they are ready. If the pain your partner is causing you isn’t enough to cause him or her to truly want to make a change, then there’s nothing left you can do. Don’t wait around for something that isn’t going to happen.
2. You Deserve Better
If your relationship causes you pain, it’s time to realize that you deserve better. You deserve someone who makes you happy, supports you, motivates you, and comforts you. Staying with someone who brings negative energy into your life or puts you down will only bring you down further. If you are constantly being hurt, intimidated or belittled, it’s time to move on.
3. It Will Hurt
No one said this is going to be easy. Even if your partner has hurt you, and you know that you’re in a toxic relationship, it can still be painful to leave. But once you realize that pain isn’t love, you’ll finally be able to walk away. It might hurt, you may have doubts, you may feel guilty, but once you break things off for good, you’ll come out stronger than ever.
4. It’s Important To Make A Decision
Once you begin to accept that you’re in a toxic relationship and you need to make a change, the next step is to make the decision to stay or leave. You may finally see what your family and friends have been trying to tell you. You need to decide to either stay with the person who will continue to cause you pain, or make the decision that enough is enough, and it’s time to put yourself first and move on.
5. You Must Stand By Your Decision
If you make the decision to leave, stand by it. Your partner may get angry, guilt-trip you, or intimidate you, but it’s important to stand strong. Remind yourself that you made this decision for you, to better yourself, to better your future, and to invest in your happiness. You’re on the path to living a better, happier life, and this is the beginning.