It’s true what they say: you can’t help who you love. In a perfect world, we would only be attracted to the people who are perfect for us. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. Every once in a while we get hung up on someone we can’t be with. Whether they’re unavailable or simply not a good fit, it can be hard to put our thoughts aside and move on.
Here are seven ways to release your attachment to someone you can’t be with:
1. Take Up A New Hobby
While enrolling in a painting class or learning how to play the guitar won’t fix your broken heart, it will provide you with a distraction. Try to focus on something you enjoy doing and put your energy toward that, instead of pining over a lost love.
2. Have A Support System
Let the people who care about you help you get through tough times. Surrounding yourself with friends and family members can remind you that you always have someone to turn to when you’re feeling down.
3. Let Yourself Sulk
Keeping your emotions buried won’t help you heal. If you need to sulk, it’s perfectly OK. Healing takes time. Just don’t get stuck wallowing for too long. Openly feeling your emotions will help you work through your feelings and move on.
4. Date Other People
This one might take time. But don’t keep yourself from seeing other people because you’re busy isolating yourself. When you’re ready, get back into the dating scene. Be careful not to compare your dates to other people. Just enjoy them for who they are.
5. Keep A Journal
Keeping a journal can help you work through your feelings. Sometimes writing down your thoughts is the best way to find peace and move on. Be honest and open with yourself. Journaling can be quite therapeutic.
6. Take Care Of Yourself
A broken heart can cause you to put your health on the back-burner. It’s OK to feel sad or upset, but make sure you take care of yourself while you’re working through the pain. Eat a healthy diet, exercise and hang out with the people who care about you.
7. Limit Contact With Them
If you’re in pain and having difficulty moving on, it may be time to limit contact with the person. It won’t be easy, but it may be the best way to help you heart heal. Time and space might be exactly what you need.