There are ten thoughts every narcissist has at some point or another and they’re a great way to find out whether you or a friend are a narcissist.
These ten crucial thoughts narcissists have can consume their thoughts at some times. A narcissist is practically in love with themselves and these thoughts reinforce the belief that they are “the best.” The narcissist needs to be the center of attention so a lot of these thoughts are about whether or not they deserve that attention or whether they’re getting as much detention as they rightfully deserve. If you’re repeatedly thinking about these things then it may be time to consider the chance that you may be a narcissist.
#1 How do I look?
The narcissist is completely obsessed with their physical appearance. They are constantly thinking if they look good. If they’re not wondering whether or not they could look better they might be thinking about how they could look better. This person’s beauty routine is regularly on their mind.
#2 Why does everyone else look so bad?
You take such good care of yourself but nobody else seems to care. You constantly think, “If other people spent a fraction of the effort I did, they’d look great.” You judge people for not putting effort into their physical appearance. You believe that there is a certain level of care that you should give to your look every day and you don’t understand people who don’t. According to Psychology Today a narcissistic man will only try to have a relationship with women who look perfect.
#3 They’re constantly thinking about what other people could be doing better.
A narcissist is a backseat driver, an armchair quarterback, and a busybody all wrapped into one. According to Health, the narcissist can’t help but give you advice even when it’s unsolicited. This is because the narcissist’s mind is completely consumed with criticizing others.
#4 They’re thinking “Why is this taking so long?”
Narcissists have an inflated ego, that’s for sure. However, how this ego displays itself day-to-day can be in small ways. For example, according to Health narcissist can’t even stand to wait in a line. The narcissist thinks they are too important to be standing in a line and they believe they have much more important things to be doing, even if they don’t.
#5 They’re thinking of different insults and put-downs.
Narcissists have to spend a lot of time thinking about the negative aspects of other people. The narcissist can’t help but put people down. Psychology Today says that they are prone to putting down inferiors and strangers. The narcissist often has a snappy insult for every occasion and they spend a lot of time thinking about them and coming up with new ones.
#7 They’re thinking of new ideas.
The narcissist can often be found brainstorming. According to Health, a narcissist’s ambition knows no bounds. This ambition often causes the narcissist to be caught up trying to think of new ideas. These ideas mainly revolve around how to make the narcissist famous in the long run. Many people mistakenly think the narcissist is daydreaming but in fact their minds are hard at work hatching their next plot.
#8 How to manipulate others.
While a narcissist may seem charming what they’re really doing is manipulating you. The narcissist knows how to turn on the charm according to Health. Psychology Today also talks about the narcissist’s propensity to manipulate people and their “keen interest” in charming the other sex. Narcissists will spend a lot of time thinking about how they can get the upper hand in their relationships.
#9 They’re overthinking every little situation.
According to Psychology Today the narcissist is “hypersensitive and insecure” and this often causes them to repeatedly replay situations in their head over and over. They’re often wondering the true meaning behind situations that are likely benign. The narcissist will repeatedly reassess events from the past in an attempt to try to perfect future encounters.
At the end of the day your average narcissist spends all or most of their time thinking about themselves. No matter when the subject is, in the mind of a narcissist it always comes back to them as the primary concern. Narcissists don’t spend much time thinking about others and when they do it’s mostly to criticize or compare against them.